What is love?

What is love? It seems as if it’s all around us. The number one biggest selling holiday in America is a love holiday, where the sales just this past Valentine’s day reached over $19.7 billion dollars (White, 2016). The Western Society is infatuated with love from the music, movie, and entertainment content. We hear it every song we like, every radio show we listen to, and in every genre of movie, no matter if it’s James Bond or Mr. Beans.

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These industries encourage and more so, exemplify the beauty and excitement of being in a relationship. But what happens after? It seems as if being in love has a certain high attached to it, so it’s inevitable that once we take this high away, the person tends to feel at lost. As I learned from my previous project breaks up, like many things, have a scale that extends from “being okay after the break up” to “emotional destructive”. The variables that this depends on is, how long an individual has been in a relationship, reasons for breaking up, and interestingly studies suggest even gender plays a role in how people act. So what is a break up? If we look at the very core of it, it’s simply loosing something of great importance to us; something in which we’ve created memories, experienced life, and became vulnerable with. It’s no mystery to why we become hysterical after break-ups. Historically, heartbreaks have never been taken lightly. A great example of what love can do to the mind is Romeo and Juliet. They were so “in love” with each other that they couldn’t bare the thought of living without each other, and we all know how that ended. In another historical aspect, Oscar Wilde writes his heart out to his lover, Lord Alfred Doulas, in 1897 where he describes how agonizing his time was without him. While for the longest period of time individuals just looked at break-ups as a physical means, with recent research we have come to see that that’s not quite true and that a break up extends to a biological aspect as well.

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For my final project I would like to delve into the world of breaks up, mishaps, and cultural aspects of what it means to end a relationship.

Introduction:

I will discuss briefly what is and what it means to be in love and as much as we hope love doesn’t always last forever. In fact, studies suggest that about 85% of relationships end in heartbreak (Rosen, 2013 ). This is where the majority of my content will come from. I will discuss heartbreaks from a biological, cultural, and gender standpoint, which should be interesting because how each and everyone of us remands our heart after a break –up is quite different!

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Background:

With every story there needs to be a background, and I think to fully understand a break-up I would need to discuss the transitions of love we all experience in a relationship. I will first explain how young newly entered relationships are like, then pushing onto more serious long term relationships, and finally the detrimental break up.

Current State:

The majority of my content will analyze the hardships of break-ups and how people get through them. As I extensively learned, break-ups can be handled in many different ways and if explored correctly, we can gain great insight into the world of relationships.

Projection into Future:

Even if we don’t believe it at the time, there is life after break ups and we must learn how to love again. I will also like to discuss the new dating realm and how it significantly causes people to not be as vulnerable as we were before!

Conclusion:

With the world so infatuated with love, it is important that every individual understands what it means to be in a relationship and how to cope without being in one either. After all, when love has become a social stigma it’s hard not to want to be in love.

 

Sources:

Austin, Christina, and Ian Mount. "9 Ways Love Is Celebrated Around the World." Fortune. Fortune, 14 Feb. 2016. Web. 
Johnson, Skip R. "The Biology and Neuroscience of Breaking Up." BPDFamily. Web. 
Kelly, Maura. "The Biological Reason Why Breaking Up Is So Hard." Maire Claire. Hearst Communications, 28 Feb. 2011. Web. 
Rosen, Miri. "Cheerful Stat of the Day: 85 Percent of Relationships End in Breakups." The Date Report. The Date Report, 9 Oct. 2013. Web. 
White, Martha. "The Truth About Valentine’s Day Spending." CNN. CNN Time Money, 10 Feb. 2016. Web.